Leadership

 "Now stewardship may be a fancy word, but it’s often used to mean holding something in trust. To me, leadership is all about keeping people’s words safe, and helping along the connections that foster a sense of community more explicit. I mean, look at the beautiful souls I've met along the way—Jo, Sam, Alex and of course Himself —they've been my rocks. They've kept me connected, lifting me up when I needed it most."

You've likely heard the adage, "If you cannot change the situation, change your response to it." However, it's not that simple, particularly for those who cannot adapt to the disadvantages they face. Jo once said she thought I should rule the world. I laughed and replied that I wanted to lead it. Ruling is oppressive; leading is empowering. Even if we cannot change the situation, we can learn to articulate discrimination, disadvantage, and inequality more clearly. I deliberately draw attention to the cloud, not merely highlighting the silver lining. Trust me, it's transformative!

In recent history, I'm heartened by the rise in activism that's reshaping our landscapes. Social media, despite its drawbacks, has amplified many voices. This newfound freedom of expression is challenging the gatekeeping of established institutions. People from marginalised groups, those who choose to identify, no longer need to breach the fortress to speak of its impenetrability.

I have successes to share, recent wins and good news. A colleague invited me to deliver a keynote on leadership recently. We had met at one of my first jobs, a leadership programme, so it was a full-circle moment. It got me reflecting on how we all have the power to uplift each other, shift our perspectives, and revolutionise our ways of working - and living. You needn't wait for the perfect job or approval to make a difference. Sometimes, it's about taking initiative and seeking forgiveness later.

I mentioned being labelled earlier and the negative impact of testing. It's why I prefer badges; I'm not keen on attaching just one tag to the jar. This is particularly relevant to leadership, which comes in myriad forms - from being courageous and effective to daring and brave, while maintaining sustainability and dynamism. It's a whole spectrum! When we discuss leadership, we're not just talking about grand gestures; it's about the little things, from caring for people to considering the universe.

I'm referring to what's ethical and valuable, both in our personal lives and society at large. However, we can get caught up in power, the allure of being in charge. Particularly during challenging times, we're drawn to charismatic and loud personalities - no one is immune, believe me. We must step back and critically examine our beliefs and values.

Stewardship may sound fancy, but it often means holding something in trust. To me, leadership is about safeguarding people's words and fostering connections that build a sense of community. Consider the wonderful individuals I've met along the way - Jo, Sam, Alex, and of course, Himself - they've been my pillars of support, keeping me connected and uplifting me when I needed it most.

That's the power of community! It's not about sugar-coating reality; it's not smooth sailing in a tempest. Sometimes, you find yourself swimming against the tide, especially when facing hardships. I've had my share of battles, as you've gathered. I'm striving to break free from society's constraints, particularly when described as 'less than human'. It's been like navigating a minefield. But every setback is a lesson learned, often leading to the best opportunities. Like establishing my own business - it began with just a computer, but look where it's taken me - to you!

My journey with ableism began when I was forced to stagger instead of being allowed to use a wheelchair. The harassment and abuse I endured from practitioners, teachers, and even neighbours was relentless. Despite seeking help, most turned away, leaving me feeling vulnerable and isolated. It was a harsh reality check on the ableism deeply ingrained in our society.

Sadly, my story isn't unique. Many disabled individuals face marginalisation and disbelief when speaking out about the hostility they endure. This disbelief stems from societal norms that normalise the mistreatment of victims, leaving them feeling unheard. However, amidst these struggles, there's hope. Studies show that strong social connections can help us navigate and withstand the dangers we face. Yet, areas marked by significant inequality often become breeding grounds for crime, putting individuals at even greater risk.

It's never all sunshine and rainbows. Sometimes, you hit a wall, hard. Like when you pour your heart into something, only to have someone you respect dismiss it. It's a bitter pill to swallow, undoubtedly. But we pick ourselves up, dust ourselves off, and keep pushing forward - the alternative is too final.

Right, enough rambling! We all have some power to make a difference. If not to challenge the status quo, then to quietly oppose it! So, go out there and shake things up. Not because I say so, but because what I've shared ignites your passion, anger, and power.